Recently, I’ve been struggling with the whole Facebook world & social media takeover, as I have (so fondly) deemed it.
First there was MySpace and I have to say I really LOVED MySpace. More so than Facebook. As you all know, I am obsessed with music. So it worked for me. Plus, I didn’t friend anyone I didn’t know, which left out all the craziness. It was fun, I found a lot of old friends, and it started my addiction to social media.
Then, there was Facebook. At first, I was so turned off by it because you had to be a college student with a college email address. Being out of college for quite some time it made me feel like they were telling me I wasn’t good enough to join (only the kids were allowed). So, I didn’t and remained against Facebook for a number of years. Eventually, everyone was migrating to it and not listening to my reasoning for boycotting them anymore. Hardly anyone was using MySpace and I kept getting more and more invites for Facebook, so many that when I finally caved, and joined Facebook, I had 80+ friends in less than an hour!
I was blown away.
At that point it was so much fun because they really did do a better job at helping you find people you know now and from your past. For a 30-something that was addicted to letter writing and keeping in touch with EVERYONE she could, it was like hitting the jackpot!
Instantly, I was addicted and I didn’t care. But I didn’t forsake MySpace right away, either. I posted everything to both sites, even a little more to MS, until it proved to be too much and I wasn’t getting any feedback from anyone — ever. I was disappointed, but found it’s the way things were going, so I fully migrated with my tail between my legs.
Now it’s been another several years and I am disliking the movement of the machine, called Facebook. Not that I am any less addicted to checking it, just annoyed most of the times I log on. Instead of being a place to share my life with my friends it’s turned into a breeding ground for business’ to advertise to me and a site I feel like I have to constantly monitor and keep up with from a privacy perspective. Along with the sense that everyone thinks they actually keep up with friends on there and are always saying “Facebook Me.”
When did regular email become so intense that you feel it’s so annoying you would rather me “Facebook” you? First, we lost the art of letter writing to email. Now, we are losing emailing to “Facebooking?” And don’t even ask me how texting fits into all this because that’s a whole other mess with the younger generation and people my age that just can’t stand to answer the phone for ANY reason at all.
Now let’s move onto the businesses that are messing with my social media. Some of them don’t even bother with regular sites anymore, just a Facebook page. I had a friend that has deleted his account because of this fact. We also have all the companies that can’t wait for you to ‘Like’ them on Facebook, just so they can spam your newsfeed. Don’t we already get enough email spam? Now we need to ‘like’ you on FB to get bombarded with the same crap that you are going to send to my inbox. Just in the hopes that we might win some contest, get a possible discount, or miss out on a big announcement. Oh, and let’s not forget the ones that you have to use your Facebook log in to even start an account with them. Those really were the beginning of my anger. Why do you think you deserve to get stats on me via Facebook just to use your service or pay you for a good/service?
Can you tell I am frustrated?
So now it seems people are too busy for a phone call, too annoyed by emails, and feel they actually know what’s going on in my life when Facebook decides a post of mine is worthy for their newsfeed. How did we get here? And how did it become a state that everyone defends? There are even people out there that are so into this new way of life that they argue for you to stop using it if you don’t like it. Really? Stop your complaining if you don’t like it, it’s progression and the way of the world. Is it?
Why is it bad to like the simple things?
I know there is a lot to be said for the way things have changed. There is even some value to the ingenuity of a lot of these social media moguls, but why do we have to sacrifice personal interaction and personal relationships to get progression? And why do so many of us feel this is a better way of life?